Evidence and experience demonstrate the most important aspect of goal setting is that you will not achieve your goals unless (a) you set a goal and (b) you do thing things that need to be done to achieve that goal. Seemples! Yeah right.
There are three types of people. Those that set goals and achieve them all. Those that set goals and achieve some of them and those that don’t set goals at all.
Those that set and achieve all their goals are usually single-minded individuals that set out to do one thing and do it really well. They don’t allow distractions, they seek help, they write down their goals, they set out the action plan and they do the things that need to be done, literally to the exclusion of everything else. They are at the top of the pyramid and there is only a handful of those people.
The rest of us fit into one of the other two groups. Let’s leave aside those that have no goals in mind. We cannot help those that do not want to help themselves!
Most of us do have goals, some we achieve, others we do not. Bbe comfortable in your skin. If you want to become an A-Player, then notch it up a level or two. If you are content to play in the B-Team, no worries, be happy. Whatever you do, don’t fall back into the group of people that fail to set goals.
Some people set too many goals. They spread themselves too thin. That isn’t the problem though. Regardless of how many goals you set, the one thing that prevents you from achieving each and every one of those goals is that you find a reason for not doing the things that need to be done.
That, by the way, is noone else’s responsibility. If you want to be successful, step up and take personal responsibility for your own actions.
It might be you didn’t do what needed to be done because you weren’t ready to do so, or might not have had the resources to do so. That’s fine, ditch the goal. Reset it when your circumstances are different. Don’t place yourself in a position where you will fail anyhow.
Success is knowing how to prioritise and choose outcomes you can achieve; failure is setting a goal you never could have achieved at this point in time.
If you are seeking help from others, be clear with them about your expectations of yourself. If you want to be an elite athlete you seek out a top coach that will help take you to the gold medal. If on the other hand you love competing but just want to have fun in the weekends, seeking out an elite coach will create frustration for both of you.
Circumstances change. Write down your goal, write down the key things you need to do, identify the things that need to be in place to enable you to reach that goal and if you find yourself at a roadblock, ask what has changed? Review the goal and reset according to your circumstances.
More social and emotional harm is created by people setting themselves up to fail, either by not setting goals or setting unrealistic goals, than by anything else. Every acheivement, every success, no matter how small or insignificant is critcally important, and should be celebrated.
The journey itself isn’t the goal. The journey often will not pan out as you planned. Don’t despair. Every step taken is a step closer to ultimately achieving your goal.
If you don’t know where you are going any road can take you there. ~ The Chesire Cat from Alice in Wonderland